Success is What You Do While Everyone Else is Distracted

Every moment in mindless anything is a moment lost from doing something that matters.

The title of this blog post is something I typed as a potential post in 2012. I felt then that I needed a tech-break to put effort into the things I really wanted to make happen in my life. The things I knew I didn't have time for as long as I was spending that time mindlessly staring at my computer, my phone, or the TV.

Four years later, and I'm finally ready to make a real effort to be a little less distracted. The main culprit: social media. So, I'm logging off for the month of July.

I've uninstalled the social media apps from my phone, I'm posting updates in "all the places" so people know not to rely on Facebook as a means to reach me, and I'll be logging off the computer and maybe even letting my husband change my passwords if I really don't have any self-control.

I have guesses of how it will go and what the results will be. I have hopes of tasks to complete and more productive ways to fill what currently ends up being scroll-time.

Whatever happens, I am sure that I am human and I can only do one thing at a time. Just as I can either look at the text on my phone or the road ahead of me, I can either scroll or be present, I can read up on simplifying or do the actual decluttering, I can dream about writing a book or I can actually write a book.

You get the idea. I am easily distracted with that one focus I have, and every moment in mindless anything is a moment lost from doing something that matters. Something of value.

Whether that's spending time with my family, growing friendships, doing work that matters, exercising and making healthier choices, or any number of valuable worthwhile habits.

I can only do one thing at a time, and I want that one thing to less often be mindless scrolling.

So I'm logging off for the month of July to experiment with being a little less distracted. And, sure, success is relative, but guaranteed I'm not going to find the success I want while I'm perpetually distracted by what's on my phone.

I guess we'll see.

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Getting Started with Essential Oils

Getting Started with Essential Oils -- How to Use Oils Safely

Essential oils have been around a long time. Thanks to social media, they're much more popular than they've ever been. Still, the basics of essential oils remain the same. If you've been curious or just want to see how we use them, here we go. This will be my one-stop post for all things essential oils: How we use them, safety reminders, and tips for getting started. If I have anything to add or change, it will be done in this post.

Note: I am not a salesperson for essential oils or any other product for that matter, and I am not a medical or essential oil professional. Essential oils are often used for health and medical concerns, which should always be shared with your doctor or medical professional. Affiliate links are included to some of our favorite products, most of which we currently buy on Amazon.* (See full note below.)


Benefits of Essential Oils


The benefits of using essential oils are as many and as diverse as the plants they come from. They can be calming, energizing, disinfecting. They can help ease some of the discomforts associated with headaches, tummy aches, and viruses. They are versatile and can be used aromatically or topically or mixed in to create a new product. They are natural, and they are potent so they are effective and one bottle can cover a lot of uses. Despite all the benefits, there are some precautions to take to avoid the potential harms. Some of those are below.


Safety to Know Before Using Essential Oils


Essential oils come in a tiny bottle for a reason: They are potent and a little goes a long way. Before you jump in and get careless, here a few things to keep in mind before opening and using.

Check before using.

Look up each oil before you decide to use it. Some oils shouldn't be used on skin exposed to the sun, some can cause breathing problems especially in young kids or in people with asthma. Do you research before using a new oil. And ditto for blends... know the individual oils in the blends so you know how to use it safely.

Don't swallow the oils.

Not even the milder oils and not even a couple drops in your water. Okay, maybe that's just me. This is not what you'll see posted all over Pinterest, but it's something to keep in mind. Oils have the potential of burning your esophagus and other harsh effects. (Remember, they're potent.) Before you start dropping them into your drinks, do so under the direction of a professional. They'll know how to do it safely and which oils to completely avoid.

Dilute before use (avoid or limit using "neat").

Again, oils are potent (you might be tired of seeing me write that, but it's true and isn't said enough in articles I find online). They need to be diluted to prevent bad reactions. Plus, diluting them in a carrier oil helps them spread better and go further. Some milder oils might be used "neat" or directly on the skin without dilution; that should be done sparingly and in less sensitive areas of your skin.

Refer to the pros.

A salesperson is different than a medical professional or even an aromatherapist or herb specialist. Always consider who your information is coming from as you decide if you'll follow it. It's fine to get info and recommendations from a friend or essential oil salesperson; but don't take that (this blog post included) as sound medical advice, and double check with another source if something doesn't sound right.

I like checking the website Using Essential Oils Safely, and there's a corresponding Facebook group, too. Lea Harris is a certified clinical aromatherapist who errs on the uber safe side, which I like. Her info goes along with the extensive information in Essential Oil Safety by Robert Tisserand, except she uses terms I can understand. She also recommends The Complete Aromatherapy & Essential Oils Handbook for Everyday Wellness. A local certified aromatherapist suggested Aromatherapy: A Complete Guide to the Healing Art. Those are all good sources to check out when looking at using essential oils safely.

Use discretion on kids.

I share more ideas for using essential oils with kids >> here. Some oils will say not for kids under a certain age. Most agree to avoid on babies. If you do use them on or around kids, use sparingly or majorly diluted and check each oil with a professional resource before using on kids.

Don't overuse to avoid sensitization.

Too much consistent use of the same oil or without diluting can lead to sensitization. Basically it's a negative reaction to the oils. Even an oil that you've been able to use regularly, your body could become sensitized and start rejecting. Oils are great; use them. But use them with care if you want to be able to keep it up.

Oils and water do not mix.

This is kind of a no-brainer that's worth mentioning. This is one of the reasons putting oils in your drinking water isn't a great idea. Give it a try and look at the water--the oils will gather on top and not mix throughout the water. So water isn't exactly a good way to dilute oils. If you're hoping to use them in a bath, you might try putting it in honey or use oil-scented bath salts to help it disperse through the bathwater. If you're wanting to make a liquid spray (i.e., cleaner or bug repellent), shake well before and during use.

Use whole health, not just oils.

Essential oils are not a magic cure-all and end-all for good health. If you can stay healthy by eating well-rounded meals, drinking lots of water, and staying active, then some need for essential oils could be prevented. Taking care of ourselves is always the best choice over relying on something, natural or not, to ease our symptoms.


How to Make Essential Oil Sprays and Products

Simple Ways to Begin Using Essential Oils

Getting Started with Essential Oils

Essential Oils Basics for Using Safely

Uses for Essential Oils


Essential oils can be used a lot of ways. The common are using them aromatically, topically, and mixed in another product.

Topical: Put with carrier oil and apply to skin.

Oils can benefit various parts of the body by absorbing into the skin. I usually do this by squirting a carrier oil into my palm (coconut, sweet almond, and jojoba oils are my favs), then adding a drop of essential oil. I rub my hands together then rub into my stomach or back or where it's needed. I usually do this as needed, rather than pre-mixing and storing.

Aromatherapy: Diffuse, sniff from bottle, or add drop to material.

The smell of the oils can improve mood, help a headache (hello, peppermint) or soothe queasiness (hello, licorice). This can be done by putting a few drops of the oil with water in a diffuser which releases it into the air over time (and can disinfect the surfaces surrounding the diffuser); you can add a drop to a stuffed animal or clothing (beware of oil staining or discoloring); touch the top of the bottle to your wrist or your finger and rub on your neck or behind your ears to smell throughout the day (do this sparingly to prevent sensitization); or simply sniff from the open bottle.

Mix a new product.

I've made several products with essentials oils that smell great and are super effective. When I want to try a homemade product, I usually search for a couple recipes online then choose a combo that makes sense for me. Below are the few I've been using more regularly. Do a search online if there's a product you'd like to try homemade with oils.

Bug Spray: This is an experiment that I'm still in the midst of. I mixed together something that didn't seem to work, then my friend sprayed her mixture on my legs and it not only stopped anymore bites but it also relieved the itching and size of the mosquito bites I already had. Hers was a vinegar/water mixture with eucalyptus, lavender, and tea tree essential oils and used heavily. Other oil options include mint, lemon, citronella, and eucalyptus.

Homemade Deodorant: Its simple form is basically coconut oil melted and mixed with essential oils (I like tea tree for this) and combined with baking soda. You can see my full post about it including the deodorant recipe >> here.

Face Spray / Toner: This is another experiment I'm still working on. I'm looking for something that fades my current acne scars and prevents future breakouts. I haven't had any breakouts with my current mixture, but still waiting to see if anything changes with the scars (that can take months, if at all). I'm currently using a 50/50 witch hazel / water mixture with a couple drops each of tea tree, frankincense, lavender, and melissa essential oils.

Disinfecting Spray / Air Freshener: What I love about this is that it smells great, but it's also effective as a germ killer. I do 50/50 witch hazel / water, then several drops of either peppermint or citrus essential oils (depending on the size of bottle). I keep this in the bathroom for quick freshening / disinfecting especially before company, and it really helps that diaper smell in the trash that lingers even after the diapers have been taken out.

All-Purpose Cleaner: I used to use straight vinegar and baking soda as my main cleaning agents for the bathroom and kitchen. I like having an all-purpose cleaning spray to more easily use the vinegar, it smells a little better (and has extra disinfecting qualities from the essential oils), and can still be used after scrubbing with baking soda. It's basically 50/50 water + vinegar with 10-15 drops essential oils per 2 cups mixture. Spray, let set, then wipe clean. Or scrub first with baking soda (especially in sinks, tubs, and showers), spray heavily with cleaner and let set, then scrub again and rinse clean. Or simply spray lightly over counters and let dry as a more natural Lysol alternative. See more about our natural cleaning products + routines >> here.

Getting Start Using Essential Oils (Safely)

Our Favorite Essential Oils and Uses


Finally, here are some of our go-to oils and how we use them. This is simply anecdotal and should not replace your own research on the facts and uses of each oil. Learn about your oils before you use them!

Tea Tree Essential Oil

Tea Tree is a disinfectant, antibacterial, etc. I use tea tree in my homemade deodorant. It works great and I rarely smell B.O. as opposed to most other store-bought deodorants I've used. Tea Tree is also supposed to be good for acne and acne scars. I've used it in a spray for my face and my pillow.

Peppermint Essential Oil

Peppermint is a hot oil that should be diluted and avoided with babies. I've diluted it in coconut oil to use as a Thieves alternative (see below) for my older daughter's throat and chest when she has a cold. It smells great diffused during the holidays, and I've diffused it to help disinfect the air and surfaces. I've put it in an all-purpose spray that really helps bathroom odors and especially the trash where we collect diapers. It works great for headaches. I sparingly touch my finger to the top of the bottle and rub into the back of my neck and my temples along the hairline (as far away from the eyes as I can get), which helps when I've got a migraine.

Grapefruit / Lemon / Citrus Essential Oils

Each citrus oil has its own set of benefits and uses. Grapefruit, sweet orange, and lemon are my favs. We use them somewhat interchangeably as a disinfectant that's safer to use around kids. I love the smell when diffusing it, and it works great in a homemade cleaning spray. I've also made an all-purpose spray like the peppermint one that works for freshening the air and killing germs around the trash or in the bathrooms. Citrus oils are often photosensitive, so shouldn't be applied to skin that will be exposed to sun.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender is supposed to be a milder oil that can be used on kids, which is likely why it's in so many baby products. It's calming and can also be good on sensitive skin or even for a burn or cut. I've used a drop in a carrier oil to rub on my boys' eczema; we've diffused it, especially in the evening; and the kids love when I put a drop on their stuffed animals and throw them in the dryer with their blankets for a couple minutes. When the kids have restless legs or growing pains, I'll rub a drop with carrier oil into their legs then give them a heated rice pack. I also often add a drop of lavender with a muscle relief blend to rub into my stomach when I have monthly cramps.

Muscle Relief Blend

The muscle relief blend is called different things in different brands. It smells like Bengay cream and works great with a drop in a carrier oil and rubbed into any aching part of the body (i.e., shoulders, lower back, or stomach with cramps). That's pretty much the only way we use it, but it gets plenty of use.

Thieves Blend

The thieves blend usually has thieves somewhere in the title even across brands based on some story about thieves using these herbs to keep themselves well when stealing from people with the plague. It's supposed to be great for disinfecting and getting rid of viruses. My husband and I will dilute it in a carrier oil and rub it into our throats or chest when we have a cold; and we'll diffuse it in the main living spaces or in our bedroom after the kids are in bed. It also makes a great disinfecting spray as a Lysol alternative--again, just spray and let surfaces dry before having kids in the area.

Calming / Serenity Blend

The calming blends have different names and even different oil combos between brands. It's generally a soothing and relaxing scent that we like to diffuse even with the kids around. Sometimes when the kids have gotten restless at night I've put a drop in a carrier oil and rubbed it into their legs to help them calm down.

Digestive Blend

The digestive blend seems to have worked great the times I've used it. Certain types of dairy bother me, and I've used it when I notice my stomach churning. I just put a drop in a carrier oil in my hand and rub into my stomach. The several times I've done this it's helped calm my stomach down. I've also used it when one of us has a stomach bug to help ease the queasy feeling.


Where to Buy + Products + Accessories


If you're wondering where you actually find essential oils and related products, there's a few options. In addition to the few oils you start out with and want to try, there are a few accessories that can help get the best use out of oils that are pictured above and linked below.

Essential Oils

As far as where you buy your actual oils, most of us know a friend who sells brands like Doterra or Young Living, I've seen some selection in our local natural / health food stores (ask around or do a local search online), and we've tried various brands from Amazon (I've been loving Eden's Garden essential oils and blends). You might even have a specific aromatherapist in the area that sells oils and could be a good resource when you have a question.

I like Lea Harris' post on choosing where to buy, where she says while "you can certainly use any brand of essential oil safely, a company which provides unsafe usage recommendations points to something greater – lack of education about aromatherapy that can spill out in to areas that can affect the product itself." Checkout her post to see what makes a company reputable.

Carrier Oils (and other dilution)

We've used and like coconut oil, jojoba oil, and sweet almond oil. There are lots of others, but those are the few we use regularly. Jojoba is a light oil that absorbs quickly and I've even used as a face moisturizer. Coconut oil needs to be warmed a little to melt and spread (which can easily be done in the palm of your hand); we always have it on hand for cooking and it's the base for my homemade deodorant. Sweet almond is probably our second most used oil next to coconut. It's a lighter oil that absorbs quickly, but not as quick as jojoba; it can also be used as a makeup remover/face cleanser.

We also keep white vinegar and witch hazel on hand which we dilute with water and add in selects oils for various sprays (disinfecting spray, bug spray, all-purpose cleaner, etc.).

Diffuser

There are a variety of diffusers. The wood diffuser in the collage has good reviews and I love the look. Ours was gifted to us and I like that it can be turned on to an intermittent diffusing and that it has a light that can be turned off. You might opt for having more than one diffuser. We do fine just moving ours around where we need it.

Wood Sorter Box

As your collection grows, a wood sorter box could come in handy. This is on my wish list, but we currently corral our oils in a smaller plastic container.

Dr. Teal's Epsom Salts

Epsom salts aren't essential for use with essential oils, but I like Dr. Teal's products that are already scented with oils. Especially their bath bubbles and salts. You could also use your oils in your own bath products which helps distribute the oils in the bath rather than them just collecting on the top of the water.

Dark Glass Bottles

Oils need to be stored in a cool, dark place and shouldn't be stored in metal or plastic containers. I love our cobalt glass spray bottles that I've used to mix cleaning solution, air freshener, disinfecting spray, bug spray, and face toner. I also use a glass jar to hold my homemade deodorant. The smaller 2 oz. jars still last a while for most sprays, but an all-purpose cleaner works better in a larger bottle.

Books / Guides on Essential Oils

Above I mentioned a few guides I've seen recommended by certified aromatherapists: Essential Oil Safety by Robert Tisserand, The Complete Aromatherapy & Essential Oils Handbook for Everyday Wellness, and Aromatherapy: A Complete Guide to the Healing Art. There are lots of other sources, but those are a great starting point.


Natural Alternatives to Essential Oils


When it comes to using essential oils safely, that involves sometimes not using them at all. Especially when preventing sensitization or looking for a healthy option to drink. There are lots of natural options that work together for best health.

Whole Health

Drink lots of water, eat a variety of healthy foods, get daily sunshine, and stay active. Those daily habits can a go a long way in feeling good and not needing extra intervention for relieving symptoms or experiencing good health. There is no magic pill for good health; it really is lots of little daily choices.

Whole Plants and Fruits

Putting an actual citrus slice (i.e., lemon) in your water has health benefits and tastes good and has none of the risks of drinking essential oils in your water. You can also eat fruits and veggies that provide fiber and vitamins and minerals that aren't found in the essential oils taken from a plant. A good diet is a daily foundation to good health.

Teas + Herbs

I don't know much about teas and herbs, but they have additional health benefits and are used differently than essential oils. They can be another contributing piece to the natural health puzzle.


When it comes to essential oils (and anything health related), I believe it's better safe than sorry. Do your research and do what seems the best for you and your family. If anything feels off, change what you're doing. When in doubt, check resources and ask true health / medical professionals.

Also see my posts about using essential oils with kids and using essential oils for cleaning.

Most of all, enjoy and oil on!

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Putting the Magic Back in Childhood, Summer, and Life

Putting the Magic Back in Childhood, Summer, and Life: By trying to craft the perfect memory or the perfect life, we're not giving the space necessary to let our imaginations go to work.
I grew up in a small Kansas town. It was basically typical Mayberry, except our Andy Griffith was named Jim Bettles and he lived two houses behind ours. We rarely locked houses or cars, and during the summer my parents rarely knew exactly where we were. Well, they kind of knew.

We were either at one of the parks--even though the town was small, we had the choice of the city park or the school playground. Or we were at the indoor pool that was a block away, where we had a year-round family membership and spent a lot of time. Or we were playing in the woods or down by the trestle when a flood washed part of the track away meaning no trains ran on it. And many times we were right at home or out in the yard creating our own fun.

Sometimes, maybe our parents didn't know where we were. Because I don't think we were necessarily "allowed" to play in the abandoned barns at the edge of town even though we did. We had a set time to be home (which might have sometimes been the imprecise hour of dark) and we knew we needed their permission when going into a friend's house.

We road our bikes all over town, we roller-skated, we played basketball. We made up adventures. My sister and I shared a paper route, and I tagged along sometimes when she babysat. My brothers taught me to rappel from the tall pine in our yard and taught me about motorcycles. We got bored a lot, and curing the boredom was where the magic happened.

It was innocent childhood at its finest. There was something about living in a small town where quite literally everyone knows your name that gave us an extra dose of freedom to explore our independence and safely expand our horizons within our own imaginations.

Growing up, I'd hear people joke about how small our town was. How funny it was that there was nothing there. I didn't get it, because I got to do and explore things there that I wouldn't have been able to in a city. Even my own kids are restricted to our tiny townhome yard and I think how small their world and their freedom and their independence is to have to rely on me to take them to the library or the children's museum or the Y or the park.

And, yet, they have have access to that same small-town simplicity I grew up with. Because they still have full ownership of their imagination and the luxury of creating their own memories... when I get out of the way and let them.

In the process of giving our kids a "magical" childhood, we actually rob them of it and miss our chance at magical parenting. It happens without kids, too. We can too easily get caught up in believing a life well-lived involves big homes and fancy vacations and elaborate plans.

The truth is a little different. The truth is that putting the magic back in childhood, back in parenting, back in summer, and back in our own lives--it all revolves around a much simpler approach. One where simple moments and creative inspiration creates magic. One where not everything can or should be perfect. Where we already posses everything we need to be happy.

We add a lot of stress to our lives with not as a high a payout when we worry about getting every moment perfect. This is as true of the big moments like birthdays and holidays as it is for the smaller moments like meal times and summer break. And I'm not even talking about the Pinterest birthday parties--by now you know where you stand on those and either you do them and have fun with them or you don't and just enjoy a simpler celebration. I'm more talking about how the big and small all play into each other.

We sometimes stress over crafting a perfect memory through a party or a vacation, forgetting that some of the most memorable and cherished moments are the ones that are much more low-key. My parents did some fun things with us when we were kids--zoo trips and Worlds of Fun and road trips. The memories that really stand out are when boredom motivated us to make things happen. To open a candy stand on our front porch or make our own video version of Amelia Badelia or turn a blanket into a hammock tied between two of the large pine trees in our yard.

By trying to craft the perfect memory or the perfect life, we're not giving the space necessary to let our imaginations go to work.

A few days into summer break, after several lectures to the kids about how I'm not in charge of entertaining them, they finally remembered how to play on their own. They gathered toys in the living room and created their own yard sale unprompted by me. A couple hours in, my 8-year-old exclaimed, "You're right, mom! Our imaginations can help us have more fun!"

Yes, I realize these moments are hard won and that might be the last time I hear the words "you're right mom" come out of her mouth for the next 15 years. But every hard moment of leaving the tv off and not giving in to their cries of boredom is worth it if they can learn to employ the power of those growing brains to solve problems, to bring out the good in a lull, and to be the inventor of their own fun. These memories will eventually mean more to them than that one time we went to the Great Wolf Lodge, although we get requests for that a lot, too.

The difference is that when we give kids room to simply be kids, we're teaching them to be self-sufficient and content adults. And we rediscover that freedom for ourselves.

Instead of teaching them to look to money and expensive outings and us to solve their summer boredom, we're teaching them to find the solution within themselves to have fun and to be happy. Because it's there. They already have everything they need to be happy, and we're stealing the magic of their childhood when we allow them to think otherwise by always giving in to tv and new toys.

When that happens, perhaps we're needing to remember it ourselves. Maybe we need to be reminded that we already possess everything we need to be happy. Contentment and joy and well-living is ours for the taking. If only we'd stop freely handing it over to our tech-distractions or the pursuit of more money.

This simple approach just might put the magic back in childhood, summer, and life.

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